HONOLULU/MINNEAPOLIS (March 3, 2015) — Do the Asian Thing: Promote Safe and Healthy Relationships.
In collaboration with the University of Hawaii at Manoa and Asian American Press, Asian Women United of Minnesota (AWUM) photographed University of Hawaii students and collected their views about promoting safe and healthy relationships. We hope their thoughts and feelings inspire you to commit to doing the Asian thing!
“Do the Asian Thing” engages young Asian Pacific Islanders (APIs) to elevate the social discourse about safe and healthy relationships within the API experience; this includes expanding or redefining cultural traditions and what it means to be Asian when it comes to romantic and familial connections. To AWUM, doing the Asian thing is to promote safe and healthy relationships.
Approximately 41 to 60 percent of Asian Pacific Islander women report experiencing domestic violence in their lifetime. (Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence: www.apiidv.org)
The mission of AWUM is to end domestic violence by promoting safe and healthy relationships within the API community.
Mr. Kenzli Dana
AWUM: What does a safe and healthy relationship look and feel like to you?
KD: Having honesty in a relationship helps. Every now and again, one or both partners renew or remind each other about what attracted them to each other in the first place.
AWUM: What new traditions can be created that reflect Asian values that encourage safe and healthy relationships
KD: Couples who are still successful also continue to date each other (even after marriage).
AWUM: What do Asian women need to do to remember their true worth?
KD: They must remember that their life matters just as much in a relationship as their partner’s.
AWUM: How can Asian men promote safe and healthy relationships?
KD: Share more, including their thoughts, even if they think it’s personal. Men need to remember that their personal life becomes their spouse’s/girlfriend’s life.[AWUM agrees with Kenzli that relationships involve sharing, and a willingness to be emotionally vulnerable with your partner. A healthy relationship requires balance between what is shared and what is not. How can each couple consult and figure out together the boundaries that honor each individual while honoring the relationship itself?]
AWUM: What do men have to do internally to promote safe and healthy relationships?
KD: Learn from other successful men or surround themselves with safe and healthy people.