HONOLULU/MINNEAPOLIS (April 14, 2015) — Do the Asian Thing: Promote Safe and Healthy Relationships.
In collaboration with the University of Hawaii at Manoa and Asian American Press, Asian Women United of Minnesota (AWUM) photographed University of Hawaii students and collected their views about promoting safe and healthy relationships. We hope their thoughts and feelings inspire you to commit to doing the Asian thing!
“Do the Asian Thing” engages young Asian Pacific Islanders (APIs) to elevate the social discourse about safe and healthy relationships within the API experience; this includes expanding or redefining cultural traditions and what it means to be Asian when it comes to romantic and familial connections. To AWUM, doing the Asian thing is to promote safe and healthy relationships.
Approximately 41 to 60 percent of Asian Pacific Islander women report experiencing domestic violence in their lifetime. (Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence: www.apiidv.org)
The mission of AWUM is to end domestic violence by promoting safe and healthy relationships within the API community.
Mr. Brandon Galarita
Major: English (Creative Writing)
AWUM: What does a safe and healthy relationship look and feel like to you?
BG: A safe & healthy relationship is void of physical and emotional abuse. Of course, we are not perfect beings, and hurtful words may come out in the heat of an argument (which is normal).[AWUM agrees with Brandon and acknowledges that while disagreements in a relationship are normal, arguments shouldn’t turn into personal attacks and neither partner should try to lower the other’s self-esteem. Saying hurtful words in the heat of an argument is different than a pattern of constant verbal and emotional abuse to maintain power and control over another person. If you can’t express yourself without fear of retaliation, you may be experiencing abuse. Want to read more? http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships/conflict-resolution.]
AWUM: What Asian cultural values do you already possess that promote safe and healthy relationships?
BG: Despite this being a more universal value, I believe a sincere respect for your partner’s elders is crucial for a respectful, safe and healthy relationship.
AWUM: What new traditions can be created that reflect Asian values that encourage safe and healthy relationships?
BG: I feel that effective communication is lacking as an Asian value. Having this “effective communication” value will benefit interpersonal understanding.
AWUM: What do men have to do internally to promote safe and healthy relationships?
BG: All men should understand that violence is NEVER the solution.